Metta for Yourself

Purple lotus on waterThese phrases are meant to evoke feelings, not alter reality.   Even if silently saying the phrases doesn’t  bring up these feelings in the moment, it is healing because it conditions the mind toward kind and tranquil thoughts.  While they are addressed to yourself, they can easily be changed to apply to all beings.  Feel free to alter them so they work best for you.


May I feel peaceful and happy,

Imagine a feeling free of agitation, of infinite calm and relaxation, without the disturbance of any cares or concerns.  Peaceful.  Give yourself permission to have that feeling, to savor it, luxuriate and revel in it.  Say to yourself, “may I feel peaceful,” and enjoy the feeling which those words evoke.

Then bring into this tranquility the element of energy, delight, or whatever else for you is the essence of being happy.  And give yourself wholehearted permission to thoroughly enjoy that feeling, too. 

safe and confident,

How would it feel to have no fears? What would it mean to live without anxiety, worry, or a sense of vigilance against real or potential or imagined threats? Let yourself feel what it would be like to be completely free of these feelings. Safe.

And imagine this sense of complete safety being permanent, with a confidence that you would never need to be anxious again.  Save and Secure.  Wish this for yourself, saying, “May I feel safe and confident.”

patient and kind,

Think of how you feel when nothing irritates you. The behavior of others doesn’t affect you personally in any negative way, leaving you tranquil and able to respond to them from a heart that is warm and wishes them well. Revel in this expansive feeling of patience and lovingkindness, and wish it for yourself now and in the future.

 free from the suffering of body or mind.

What if you were free of all suffering? Imagine that whatever suffering arose, whether related to the body or mind, it would not “stick” to you, that you don’t have to take that suffering in or making it a part of “you.” You are free from suffering. Even if you can’t see how this would work, explore how it might feel to live without the burden of physical or emotional distress. Give yourself this gift, saying, “May I feel free from the suffering of body or mind.”

May I take care of myself lovingly,

Consider all the tasks required to take care of yourself, the hours spent trying to meet your needs and those of others. Imagine doing all these things with a clear sense of their value to your wellbeing, enjoying this service to yourself and your loved ones. Being alert to all your needs and happily setting aside the time to rest, to practice, to let your mind follow its own leads, to be relaxed and present with others. Give yourself permission to take care of yourself joyfully.

knowing and accepting myself just as I am.

Imagine that there is nothing about yourself that you don’t know and accept. No forgotten shames or hurts or regrets. Everything acknowledged and accepted with a sense of embracing yourself and loving yourself fully. Allow this feeling into your heart, saying, “May I love and accept myself just as I am.”

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